27-year-old Lindsay Tornambe, who was just 13 years old when her parents handed her over to a cult that sexually abused her for a decade, has now confronted her father in an emotional interview on Dr. Phil.
Victor Barnard, the leader of the River Road Fellowship in Minnesota, selected Tornambe to be one of his 10 ‘Maidens.’ As a ‘Maiden’ Tornambe went on to experience a decade full of sexual abuse at the hands of Barnard.
On Monday, Lindsay confronted her father, Carmen, for the the first time and demanded to know why he had not protected her from Barnard and the cult.
Lindsay, along with 9 other young girls, were ‘spiritually married’ in a special ceremony where veils were placed on their heads, rings were out on their fingers, and salt was put into their mouths.
“My parents witnessed the salt ceremony,” she told Dr Phil. “It was clear to me at that moment that my parents weren’t going to stop it.”
Barnard told Lindsay’s parents at that time that he ‘may or may not’ have sex with their daughter. On Dr. Phil, Carmen insisted that he did not know about the sexual abuse.
“How could you not know?” she said as she fought back tears. “You saw me with a veil over my head with a ring he had given me. He said he may or may not have sex with me. How would you not know? You didn’t do your job as a father. You abandoned me. You left me there for years. You saw me humiliated and kicked out of meetings in front of the whole church. I don’t understand why you keep saying you didn’t know what happened.”
Carmen admits that he feels he out his trust in the wrong man.
“I felt like I was manipulated into his power,” he said. “My perspective was that she was serving the church, I didn’t know all those other things were happening. There’s not a day that goes by that I don’t count the cost of realizing that I take my full accountability and responsibility for what had taken place. I did not give a blessing or an OK.”
Lindsay attempted to leave the cult when she was 15, but her parents berated her with disappointment and Bernard spoke about damnation, so she reluctantly returned. Barnard then left a few years later once again to live with her parents in Pennsylvania.
In 2012, after becoming a nanny, Lindsay called the police on Barnard. Now 53, he is wanted on 59 counts of first-degree criminal sexual conduct but has been able to elude authorities thus far.